I often think about what parents tell their adopted child about the child's birth mother. This is a tender topic for a child.
As with any questions that a child asks the answers should be age appropriate and honest as can be. It is good to remember to just answer the question as simply as possible. Many times a parent makes the mistake of interpreting the question as far too complex and then delivers a complex answer.
The child usually does not need a complex answer nor does he want one.
The following article received many comments in disagreement with how this mother handled her child's questions regarding his real mother.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/05/magazine/05Lives-t.html
What was this little one really wanting to know?
Who was served by the answers that his adoptive mother gave him? The child or the adoptive mom?
How would you have handled this tender situation?
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